Focusing out

Have you been in a difficult situation and the best remedy is to focus out and not to focus into your problem?

Yesterday was an important date to someone else, not me. So we had our yearly small makan makan outside the office to celebrate his birthday. The event is all about him. Nothing to do with me.

So I realised that by focusing out, I stop thinking about my problem,  I stop wanting to be seated or to mingle to only people I comfortable with. I don't care if the venue is far, or the cake is less healthy or the service of the restaurant is slow. It's not about me, it's not about how I feel.

It's about giving my time to celebrate someone who is important,  to show respect and to let the person know that all his time spent with you for all these years is deeply appreciated.

Oh. Lesson learned. Focus out 😀