by Laura Dawn Lewis
Definition of Grief:
The emotional depiction of great loss accompanied by a sense of hopelessness, anguish, denial, anger and confusion.
Stage 1: Denial
Denial can happen in two ways, either it's that nagging little voice in the back of your mind that keeps telling you that it’s time to get out of the relationship and you keep it gagged, making excuses and rationalizing why you need to stay. Or, the object of your affection has left, stopped calling, stood you up repeatedly, not invited you to important events…basically, you are abandoned emotionally or physically. The hard thing about denial is you deny your in it.
Stage 2: Depression
Okay, you admit it. It’s over and you know he/she isn't coming back, ever. The depression phase is about extremes. Suddenly, life feels like it’s over. The sun has stopped shinning. You’re in a daze and the pain and agony are so overwhelming you cannot remember the last time you smiled. Your bad habits become amplified. If you smoke, you smoke more. If you drink, you now want to be drunk and you may eat constantly or not at all. Mostly, life is full of malaise and even routine tasks become drudgery, while work nearly impossible or an obsession. When you finally admit it's over, the hardest part of grief begins: depression.
Stage 3: Anger
Rejoice! If you are feeling anger toward your ex, you are almost home free. This is the final stage that takes some work getting through but it also means that soon you’ll be back to your old self again. Anger is a familiar emotion to men; as a man you have little difficulty in expressing it because society accepts anger from you. Women on the other hand have difficulty with anger and its manifestation can take on characteristics that make it look like depression. Women tend to internalize anger or display it via passive-aggressive behavior like a compliment followed by an action of aggression. Anger is part of recovery, but it can turn the sweetest person into a veritable nightmare if not managed properly.
Stage 4: Acceptance (hurray!)
You've made it and now you are finally ready mentally, physically and spiritually to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right. Now is the time to start dating again, getting back into circulation and moving on.
Welcome Back to Your Life! (Hurray!)
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Q: where am i now?
A: 85% Acceptance 15% Anger
3 comments:
ala todak fish biasalah memang akan jatuh je sentiasa, takyahlah sampai 4 stages nak bangun lak,life is pretty short dear, jatuh terus bangun je and lari pecut lak ..... hehehehe
!! siapa tolak u jatuh tu? cakap dgn i nanti i pukoi sama dia hehehe cian little todak fish hehe... kan ada pedang kat muncung tu hehehe... tikam jelah buntutnya hehehehe ... may god bless u hehehe...
hi todak fish love is just a real funny nut hehehe.... cos the medicine for love sick is love and the same medicine also effective for broken love .... hehehehe... so u need a new love to cure the broken love ... whether u want it or not!!! so pick ur best substitute for the one u lost.... best of luck to u !! but, to me i really agree with how muslim attitude towords "have" and "not having" cos if u can accept that if he is ur "jodoh" he would be urs and if it is not, the just take it as it is not ur "rezeki" and "ada hikmahnya kenapa tak jadi", since i adopted this fantastic solution to disappointment arise from "have" and "not having" stress and grief and whatsoever ill feeling were easily tackled.so let it be if it was not yours even u put in the best effort u can, then life would be rather easy and less miserable.There is a chinese saying that "love is something u can meet and not seeked" meaning to say u can meet ur loved one if u r deemed to meet him but u cannot possible chase him if he is no urs !".
todak fish tak edit pulak tadi "u cannot possibly chase him if he is not urs"
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